“How to be more vulnerable”—this is one of the pertinent questions plaguing people today.
Additionally, how does a man act when he is falling in love? Make no mistake about it, you will know because he will let you meet his friends and you will know more about the things that are important to him.
A lot of women find men confusing and tricky, even more than the toughest Rubix’s cube. There seem to be so many questions on women’s minds without the possibility of an answer.
You might be wondering how to make a guy fall in love with you, but you don’t even know why he chose his favourite colour, that is if you even know that.
One thing to ask yourself first is what makes a man fall deeply in love with a woman? Several experts in psychology have said that men love when a woman is vulnerable.
Men want to be with a woman who is vulnerable—it is something that they actively love and crave. If you show him that you are vulnerable, it means that you are safe with him, that he can keep you safe, and this appeals to the primal part of him.
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If you don’t show this vulnerable side, well, he starts to wonder why you even need him around, and before long, he will leave you because of your lack of vulnerability.
What does it mean to be more vulnerable?
Vulnerability means sacrificing your ego at the altar of true intimacy. The meaning of vulnerability is sharing your deepest self with another being in the hopes of building trust, safety, and deeper connections.
When you are vulnerable with someone, it means that you trust them with your deepest and most insecure self. Doing this is not easy because if you open yourself up to the wrong person, they can take advantage of you.
This is why men love women who are vulnerable with them because it shows that you trust him enough to bare this unrestrained side of yourself. Be careful not to open yourself up to the wrong person though. Ensure that whoever you are being vulnerable with will not use this against you.
How to appear more vulnerable
Vulnerability is integral to human nature. Researcher Brene Brown said: “There can be no intimacy—emotional intimacy, spiritual intimacy, physical intimacy—without vulnerability. Vulnerability is glue that holds intimate relationships together.”
So, how to be more vulnerable? There are simple steps to doing so; a checklist you can tick in your head until you’re used to it.
1. Ask for what you need
It may be difficult at first, but you only form close connections by asking for what you need. When you always ask for what you need, then he knows what to do to satisfy you. Not speaking up means that you collect the hurt within you until it turns to resentment.
While it is true that you might be misunderstood and therefore disappointed, you might also experience the feeling of being understood, nurtured, and deeply connected to him.
2. Always say exactly how you feel
Never mince words when saying what you feel in every situation. When you are with him, you should say things that you think and never be afraid of expressing your true self.
We all feel a wide array of emotions, including the uncertainty surrounding vulnerability. When you come forward with your true emotions, he won’t need to worry if you’re being sincere or not.
3. Be present in every situation
There is no better way to be more vulnerable—and show this fact to your partner—than being present in every conversation.
Pay attention to your partner, ensure that you maintain eye contact, and listen to what he is saying. When you spend too much time in your head and worry too much about what you’re doing right or wrong, you miss out on the chance to build a genuine connection.
4. Start slowly
True vulnerability requires trust, the kind that cannot be formed in one day. So, you need to take your time.
First, get to know him a bit more and find out if he is worth your trust, before being vulnerable with him.
Even after, don’t just spill it all to him immediately. That can be overwhelming for you both. Take your time and slowly approach the intimacy that vulnerability requires.
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