Let the past pass away.

Truth be told, we all have our past experiences, we all have been hurt in one way or the other. There is no adult or teen alive today who hasn’t experienced some kind of emotional pain.

It’s painful, I understand that.

But the important part of the story is what you do with the pain and not the pain itself. Wouldn’t it be a lot better if you decided to take back your life and make the best of it, instead of sulking endlessly about the past and something that cannot be changed? Learn the lessons you need to learn and move on. Period!

People who hold on to these past pains often relive them over and over in their minds. Sometimes a person can even get “stuck” in this pain, in this suffering, in this blame.

You have to stand up and make the decision to let go of your past or whatever that seems to be holding you down. Learn how to express your pain through any number of ways: writing, taking a walk, jogging on the streets, singing aloud, dancing, cooking, seeing a movie, or even yelling at a friend. Yes! You need to figure out what works for you. Watching the television or seeing a movie works for me.

Also, you need to stop playing the victim all the time or even blaming other people for the wrong they may have done. Just take it as one of their excesses. Flush it quickly and move on.

Learn to forgive others for the pain they may have caused you. But most importantly, learn to forgive yourself. You need it, because most of the time you end up blaming yourself for what has happened. And finally, focus on the present, the future, and what they have to offer you. When you focus on the here and now, you have less time to think about the past.

Steve Maraboli – “The truth is, unless you let go, unless you forgive yourself, unless you forgive the situation, unless you realize that the situation is over, you cannot move forward.”