Just like we already know, in every relationship, especially long-term relationships there are bound to be issues, misunderstandings, disagreements, etc. At a certain point you may get to do something that bugs your partner, or you may disagree with your partner on some issues. You two may be angry at each other, or one person is making the other person mad. These issues can be small or big ranging from when to have dinner, public displays of affection, how much the monthly expenditures will amount to, who gets to drive the kids to school, how to relate with extended families, where to reside, how to raise the kids, etc.
Honestly speaking, the fact that you have disagreements in your relationship does not mean you have a problem. The truth is that, when properly handled, these issues can increase the bond between you and your partner, it can help you two grow stronger. However, this is where some couples get it all wrong. Just like I mentioned earlier and we already know, there will be issues. You don’t go about elongating matters and making them stay for days, weeks, months, even years. Because of an issue, you decide not to speak to your partner, and that only prolongs the issue. You keep malice and stay apart from each other.
No matter what happens, learn this relationship hack of not allowing issues cross over to the next day. You need to understand that it’s about the issue not the person. So, focus on solving the issue. Talk to your partner, tell him or her exactly how you feel. This may not happen at the exact point of disagreement or peak of the fight. Patiently wait until all has died down, then you can approach him or her for matured talk. While explaining yourself, don’t play Lord while you paint your partner as the devil. Get him or her to see your own view, perspective or side to the topic or issue at hand. Equally listen to his or her own opinion. When I mean listen, I mean listen patiently, and don’t interrupt. When this is done, it will help you get a better understanding of your partner, how he or she reacts to certain things, and also help you arrive at a solution that will work for the both of you.
Also, remember the 5 magic words of which “I’m Sorry” is a part of. Learn to apologize whether you’re at fault or not. It has a way of calming a burning heart. Always have in mind that issues will surface, but you have to apply wisdom so that they doesn’t ruin your cherished relationship with your partner.
“Learn to apologize whether you’re at fault or not.” This is very correct.
But my dear this one is always difficult for us most times. We have this ego that plays out anytime thee is an issue and the other person is at fault. You still don’t want to apologize because you feel its your right to get an apology.
Women are the ones known for elongating matters a lot. They just have a way of doing that i don’t like at all
Shola what nonsense are you vomiting? Its women that do what? Guys are not exempted from this article. Who knows if you are one of the guys that initiate malice with their partner. Nonsense and ingredient like you.
I am very much disappointed in you Shol. To think you can say a thing like this., So you are implying women are the trouble makers in relationships abi? Mtchewwww
Guy i disagree with you here ooo. We have guys that are problematic and likes to prolong issues too. The article is not specifically directed to any gender, so you might as well keep quite.
This is so true. I first heard this hack from my girlfriend. She said to me, “no matter what happens, i never let the issue cross over the next day without fixing it or settling it.” Since then, I have applied it in my relationship, and bet me it feels so great.
And anytime we want to talk, we just try to calm down and talk maturely with no one hailing insults or shouting at the other person.
Anytime i provoke my husband, i try as much as possible to make things up cos i know there is no need keeping malice. I only gives the devil a privilege to crawl into our relationship.
I just hope my partner is with me right now. We just have a penchant of elongating issues especially she. Women sabi do shakara