Early in August, we had a post about a self-acclaimed doctor by the name of Joro Olumofin, who claims that “it’s time for ladies to have a “CONTINGENCY BOYFRIEND”.
This means that he is encouraging ladies to have a guy by the side with whom they can tie the knot with if the current one misbehaves. While this is for the ladies, no doubt, the guys are not left out either. Most of our guys thinks it’s ok to have a backup girlfriend (side chick) that fills the void if anything happens. The word is “just in case”.
Permit me to say this, having a backup girlfriend or boyfriend while dating is the same as cheating. In fact, it is blatant cheating and there are no two words about it.
The intent, no matter how noble or self-helpful, does not justify the act. If you think that your current girlfriend or boyfriend does not fit in or may not be a perfect fit later in life, why date him/her? If you think your backup boyfriend or girlfriend is the one you will finally end up with, why suffer the other person in the picture?
Things like double-dating and keeping another partner on the side can be coated with all sorts of trendy names and rubbish excuses, but it still does not make it right. The truth remains that, you are cheating on your partner by keeping another partner elsewhere.
If there is something wrong with your relationship, fix it. If you can’t, then just get out of it. If the other person can’t seem to keep their end of the bargain and you can’t deal, then get out of it too.
I strongly believe it’s time we take commitment in relationships seriously. This defines the exclusivity of each other as partners, and to stop seeing/dating any other person.
If our brother Joro holds commitment in a relationship in high esteem, he will not encourage that kind of thought, let alone voice it out.
That simply means this Joro guy has a side chick. Chai! I wish i know em babe
Truly,there is no point keeping a backup boyfriend or girlfriend. That’s lack of commitment
Contingency partner, is that another phrase for cheating? Mtcheww
Nne m, maybe.
If i find out i’m a contingency dude, i will break her neck. What nonsense1 This Joro guy na fowl yash
I agree with my n---a
Omo, i no fit shout. It’s just been careful not to lose on both ends. If this one f***s up, the other takes her place. No long thing
You have no sense at all. You better check very well, maybe you are a side guy and you don’t know. It’s obvious you don’t know what the word commitment means.
It does not look like he does at all. Dude man up jare. Have small sense
Chisom i agree with you. It’s pure cheating. Can you imagine? Having an extra boyfriend.
Love doctor my foot. I like what i hate oo. Joro better mind your mouth and brain
I swear, that Joro guy must be a weed smoker for him to have voiced out that trash.